The One Secret That Changed My Sex Life After Kids

In this deeply personal episode, I’m sharing the one  secret that helped me go from six months of shut-down to regularly saying yes (and even initiating!)—without faking, forcing, or bypassing my body’s needs.

My vagina had a tantrum last week and we are going to talk about it. Whether you're the higher libido partner wondering what’s going on behind the “no,” or the lower libido partner who wants connection but feels stuck in shutdown—this episode is for you.

In this episode we cover: 

00:00 – The one nervous system insight that changed everything
04:35 – The “vagina tantrum” story: how I almost bypassed my body again
14:10 – Why resistance and irritation aren’t bad signs—they’re signals of progress
20:01 – The critical mistake I made during sex (and how I owned it with my partner)
26:10 – Why slowing down ≠ giving up (and why somatic sex matters)
36:00 – Why I created the Roommates to Romance Challenge—and how it helps both higher and lower libido partners move from stuck to sexy

💌 And if you’re done waiting for the perfect moment to reconnect, join the Roommates to Romance Challenge—14 days of small, done-for-you steps to build safety, play, and turn-ons that work with your body, not against it. Just DM me the word ROMANCE on Instagram or email sofia@intimacyafterkids.com and say I want in. 

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- Catch the episode where I talk you through managing big emotions when they arise during sex.