What does balancing the mental load, chores and childcare have to do with libido - a lot, and fixing the mental load in your home after kids is still not a silver bullet for your sex life. Let’s talk about why and what to do about it.

Struggling with low desire or no sex after kids? You're not alone—and you're not broken. In this episode of The Sex After Kids Podcast, sex and intimacy coach Sofia from The Happy Vagina Project shares 5 mindset shifts to help couples reconnect, reignite desire, and break out of the dreaded “Not Tonight” cycle.

Whether you're feeling touched out, rejected, or just numb to the idea of intimacy, this episode offers practical tools and emotional clarity to bring back passion, play, and connection—even if it's been months (or years) since your last good sex.

Find out the real reasons your partner is avoiding sex after kids (it’s not what you think it is)

Flirting with the D-word (Divorce)? Or just feeling like roommates with a mortgage and a laundry pile that never ends? You’re not alone—and you’re not broken.

This episode is all about the small, not-so-sexy things that make a massive difference. I’m talking:
✨ Undivided attention (yes, even for 3 minutes)
✨ Actually using your words (thank you, Daniel Tiger)
✨ Shutting your mouth instead of offering solutions (it’s a challenge, I know)

Listen as I walk you through how I use my signature Time Together Blueprint to turn awkward into awesome in four little steps. This one’s for the mamas in messy buns and dads trying to figure out how to connect again. There’s nothing wrong with you—you’re just not in a Hollywood movie.

What if the stories you’ve been taught about sex—what it should look like, feel like, and mean—are the real reason it’s not working? 

In this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast, we’re unpacking six cultural myths that sneak into your bedroom and sabotage connection. From spontaneous desire to sexual obligation, we’re breaking it all down—and offering a new way forward. 

 What if the hottest thing you could bring into the bedroom… was a question? 

In this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast, we’re talking about consent—not the swipe-right kind, but the long-term, tired-parents, messy-realities kind. Consent isn’t just about saying “yes” or “no.” It’s how we build trust, support nervous systems, and create sex that feels good for both of you. 

This week we have another bedroom dispatch from my sheets to your ears. I share these to normalize what real sexy times look like and to show you how my I use my own tools in my real life - so you can see who they work for you. This week you'll hear how I turned complaining about my body into a lovely romp in the hay with my partner using my Time Together Blueprint - four simple steps to go from a maybe to a yes and have a great time. Listen for:

• how my partner initiated sexy time

• how I got out of a no and into a maybe

• how I got into my body and out of my head to enjoy more

• how speaking up got me what I needed